All posts tagged: advice

365 Days, Living In The Moment: Day 268

I had to remind myself of this today and I had to keep reminding myself of this all week really but it’s a good piece of advice.And someone with a disability I can say that I often have challenges that others may not and often have to prove myself just doing “normal” things. often people underestimate me and when they do I have to say I just kind of laughed to myself because I know when I approve them on they are going to be the ones shocked and having to renegotiate what they thought of me while I sit humbly thinking well I knew I could do it. I acknowledge it may take me longer and I may do it in a different way but in the end it gets done and a lot of the time people realize how inefficient they once were or are when they see how another person does something. So underestimate me that’s fine just don’t be shocked when the underestimated rise. This probably sounds arrogant I am not …

365 Days, Living In The Moment: Day 267

I thought because today is Valentine’s Day I would talk a little bit about self-care. Something that I have been really bad at lately and my body and so are getting mad at me for it. How do I know what? I just do, I can feel it and sends it and as much as I am in my authentic self with in that but I also know when my alignment is off. I know it sounds a little woo but it works for me. I am the type of person to give and give to other people or things in my life to the extent that I will often leave myself for last and go and do things because they need to be done or it would be easier to do X now instead of ex and Y later so I basically run myself to the bone. I acknowledge that, but now I feel it even more intensely and deeper than I have before. So I am taking my self-care seriously and, not just …

365 Days, Living In The Moment: Day 266

this is so perfect for today because I think for the first time in a while I am totally OK with my circle. Big or small I know where everything fits. Not to say that something won’t change, actually I hope it does but that I am completely OK with understanding that some people are only to be in your circle for time while others will be there a lifetime. I am not afraid to let people go – or to truly let things be and follow the path that is put in front of me as I discover it. I think as scary as it is to say I am ready to leave what I know for something different that I feel is going to be more authentic to me. What that is, I have no idea but I am willing to lean into the wind, listen carefully walk with intention and open my eyes to what’s next.

365 Days, Living In The Moment: Day 265

I was really hard on myself today for needing to take a break. I couldn’t figure out why. Logically I knew it was okay to need one, but because I think I have done more with less at other points in my life it seemed weird or wrong or like I was giving up too soon to throw in the towel now. Then as I lay here in a haze I saw this: I realized by giving myself a break now I was actually doing more for myself and then I ever was in the past. I care about myself now as a whole person and not as selective portions of people I feel like I should or could be. Being authentic has forced me to become more deliberate with my actions and choose more carefully how why and who I do things with. This has only benefitted me. Now I am able to look back and see the error of my ways in previous situations and make better choices the next go around. Though …

365 Days, Living In The Moment: Day 255

I just had a teachable moment with someone. Who was cutting me off when I spoke, thinking she knew what I wanted like she was a mind reader, and trying to make me work at her speed. This doesn’t happen at my house. Sometimes I will let one of these things go, given his situation but lately I have become much more of a boss, especially with my help. The days of walking over Mindy are long gone and the days of me standing up for myself I have become a reality and it’s not sometimes it’s pretty much all the time now. This might sound bitchy and self-centred but please no I do not mean it that way. I do not have time for sub par help. If you do not want to be around me in a positive way in my house you can leave. If you insult me, my family or something I hold close to my heart. You can leave. If you do not believe that I know what’s best for …